Time passes really slowly these days. This feeling of loss that I try to shake away.
Finished The Severe Mercy. Was quite a good book esp in its ending parts, when the protagonist was able to reconcile the loss of his wife (due to an illness). He described the initial stage as a time of grieve-where he kept thinking of her everyday and imagined her being with him. And then after some time he felt nothing, cos grieve left his heart, and what remained was an emptiness. The second stage he describes as a second death, which was somewhat more difficult than the first stage.
I guess the loss may not be death, but the departure of someone close. There's a fluctuation between grieve and nothingness. The feeling of nothingness is scary. Its as if one day, this part of u, the memories u shared with someone so close to u will just disappear and mean nothing to u. What then? When we move on...and nothing remains...even memories no longer impt. Yet part of moving on is the letting go of memories. And hence the very step of decision itself is difficult..to let go of the memory and to come to terms with reality.
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Perhaps we shouldn't see it as letting go of a memory per se, but just accepting the memory as simply that - a memory. Something that can't be relived, save in your mind. When we accept memories as that, we can start to move on.
I'm not exactly sure what your loss is, but take heart that you have your memories to accompany you and may you find solace in them.
Thanks. :)
Who is this?
ex-classmate of yours. =)
huh..JC or sec sch? :)
JC.
I can understand this well, been through it too.
Ure right abt the last sentance.. it is difficult to make the decision. Some people never ever make it and cling on to memories pretending they are still the reality. Like, erm, the old bride in Great Expectations who kept her clock at the time when her bridegroom ran away decades ago?
It is easy to lose oneself in memories, at least it provides instant, temporary comfort. ... but when u have decided that there is no hope or wish to want it to be the reality anymore, then must be strong n make the decision k? Sometimes.. circumstances change and memories cant be relived.. they will then have to remain beautiful memories to be cherished as having been a part of u. B strong k... alwiz behind u every step of this way! hugs :)
Yeah I cherish those memories a lot. :) Thanks I will be strong..
Erm, can someone tell me who is the Cat? Samantha?
tehee. Don't think Samantha would not have revealed her identity yet?
Someone who writes well and is wise tho, ask?
U havent kept track of who u shared ur blog add with ah?
Mm.. b strong ah..
Must cherish as much as u are determined to move on..
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