Saturday, May 12, 2007

Of marriage

One of the signs of growing up is learning to see fr yr parents' point of view. Was attending a course yesterday and the colleague sitting next to me was a proud mummy with the photo of her baby son as her handphone screensaver. Next to her was another proud daddy also with the photo of his baby daughter on the screensaver. More and more wedding invites this year! So many of my friends getting blissfully married!

On the other hand, recently in counseling classes we have been learning about singlehood, finding the right partner, conflict management in marriage and how divorce happens. It makes me feel a bit overwhelmed by the considerations of marriage. Its almost a miracle how one firstly has to find someone compatitible. Furthermore, chemistry alone may not sustain a marriage. It takes lots of commitment to continue loving each other after getting married. How they say that after marriage, the man changes and no longer cherishes the gal as much as when he was wooing her. That's quite a scary thought waking up next to a man u love, and then u realise that this person has changed. So in spite of how singles often wistfully wish to find that elusive partner, finding the partner is not an ends in itself, nor is it a guarantee that lonely nights will end. So in the end, I think it is best to consider properly before settling down, cos one might be better off singley happy than marriedly sad. Now I am starting to sound like I don't wanna get married, which isn't true. =)

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